Public conformity

Disclaimer: I'm not married nor am I going to be married anytime soon AND I might form the same opinion as the public's when the time comes so yeah, let me get this out while I can still form a coherent opinion (a very rare occasion btw).

An advice the babyboomers like to give when young people are getting married are this: buy a gold engagement/wedding ring with some diamonds on it so it'll be easier for you to gadai in the future.

I am all for sediakan payung sebelum hujan and all that shit, but don't you think it's weird that you're setting up a plan to gadai your cincin kawin BEFORE you're getting married? A wedding ring is a momentous item that signifies a change in your life, are you heartless enough to pawn it for some easy cash? Well, you could do that if your life took a shitty situation but still, I don't get it.

I think that most people get married for the wedding, not for the marriage itself. Because you are pressured by your family and the society to get married, not because you are ready. Because you feel the urge to multiply and spread your DNA and create a new human, not because you're mentally and emotionally ready to care for a human being who depends his/her life on you. Because everyone around you is doing it, not because you can't imagine a life without your significant other. Seriously, how many couples have you encountered in your life who have money trouble after the wedding? I think people should work for their marriages, not for their wedding.

The public has skewed views on what you are supposed to do and think, but don't you think that you're old enough to form an opinion about anything, including yourself? How can you appreciate yourself and your achievements when all you think about is how people would think or react if you do this or that? You don't need the public approval to form an opinion and just do what your heart tells you, after all the only one you need to answer to is yourself (and your family too!).

But then, like I said, I'm not married or getting married anytime soon so I might be wrong. It's exhausting to see the shits the people in my life do just to conform to what people perceived as "normal" though.

Wow I just read this again and I sound like a condescending prick. Biasalah sekali-sekala.

Note: Listening to Snow White's I'm Wishin' at 4AM is scary as shit.

Additional note: I promise I'll post part 2 of Kamakura this week! Zero of you who are anticipating my post can stop fretting!